You risk, I risk….

May was a slender attractive brunette, around 5’6″, maybe 35 years old.  She responded to my “What’s been a highlight of your day?” question in several steps of progressively greater openness – startling to me and maybe even to her.  “I had a really good hypnosis session….We’re working on fear….I’m a cancer survivor and lots of little symptoms bring up fear.”

My response was in its own way a little startling to me.  “Are you familiar with A Course in Miracles?”  Now why did I bring that up?  I’m sure not getting paid to promote far-out, channeled, New Age metaphysical programs.  I do know why I brought it up – because in my life A Course in Miracles has been a very powerful lever for working with fear.  But it still feels like a risk to be recommending it to a customer, maybe especially a customer who is at such a vulnerable point in her life.

May’s next response was also surprising.  She got positively electrified (I get goose bumps recalling it): “Yes – love is letting go of fear!  My hypnotherapist was telling me about it today!  This is total affirmation that it can be good for me.”

A Course in Miracles is a dense metaphysical system paired with a very concrete workbook with 365 daily lessons that tend to turn your daily reality upside down.  I spent 3 years making my way through the lessons, then turned around and spent another 4 years doing it again.  My life has been forever changed by it.  Jampolsky's book is a great introduction.

A Course in Miracles is a dense metaphysical system paired with a very concrete workbook with 365 daily lessons that tend to turn your daily reality upside down. I spent 3 years making my way through the lessons, then turned around and spent another 4 years doing it again. My life has been forever changed by it. Jampolsky’s book is a great introduction.

After May left, I had no mixed feelings about having recommended A Course in Miracles. I’m a big believer in synchronicity and felt as convinced as her that her hypnotherapist and I both recommending it within a few hours of each other indicated it could be good for her.

What did all this teach me about taking risks with customers?  Sometimes I’m the first one to risk – to offer something personal or unusual.  Today May disclosed first.  But is it really so easy to know who opens first?  Did May know from the way I asked my question that I was a safe person to open up with?  I don’t ask the question to everyone – did I pick up something from her that indicated that asking her the question would go someplace?  Was I in a more trusting place because of the enchanted interaction that I had had just an hour earlier? (“I’m vertical…”, 1/7) Why did she end up in my line?  Why shortly after this hypnosis session?

Sometimes it makes sense to think in terms of taking risks.  I want to develop my sense for which risks are worth taking and which are perhaps too risky – and to recognize when my customer has taken a risk, has made themselves vulnerable, and needs to be supported.  Yet it also seems equally valid to hold that we are always totally supported – and that love means to recognize this, to trust it, to surrender to it.  And as we do this we progressively let go of fear.  I learned that from A Course in Miracles.

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4 thoughts on “You risk, I risk….

  1. I clocked out at work,picked up an item that I wanted to buy then got in line & i looked around lots of people at night buying stuff.so I remembered the video that I had to watch on orientation day where you watched the customer go through the store & you heard every thought she had,that video drove me nuts,then I remembered you & your question what was the highlight of your day? & I started thinking about all the positive stuff that happened while I was at work then it was my turn to be waited on the cashier actually helped me. that was a good experience. Thanks Majo!

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  2. Nice story Christina. Asking that question is a way to train my own mind to notice all the little highlights that happen every day. I purposely ask for “a” highlight, not “the” highlight – keep the bar low, where it can be something really little that kind of made us smile.

    Thanks for reading my blog! It makes me feel good – and connected with you.

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  3. Once again, you magically synchronize with things going on in my life; amidst my current immersion in Buddhist teachings, I have also joined James Twyman’s online daily lesson. I’m still not sure I believe there are NO accidents, but I at least become every more aware of coincidences which are most probably not coincidences.

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  4. Chaz – I actually do believe in my heart that all is actually one, that there are no coincidences, the universe is in some very mysterious way intelligent and benevolent – is always giving us exactly the experiences we need. But my mind sure does not comprehend or see that. I think the work of personal evolution is to sink into this truth more all the time.

    More synchronicity: someone (I think a customer in the checkout line) was telling me the other day about the James Twyman email list and I asked them to send me a link, but they haven’t – and I can’t remember who it was and probably have no way to reach them. I just went to his website and can’t find a way to sign up. The first listing – the Proof Online Course – looked promising, but clicking the link to sign up took me nowhere. Can you tell me how?

    Thanks to you – we need each other. I am more and more thinking of the group of us who in one way or another participate in this blog as a community – one of a few communities in my life that keep it going. And boy is it great to have a guy of your consciousness and warmth and integrity at part of this community!

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